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Daughter Moved, Misery and a Revelation

Random Thoughts

Disclaimer:  This is all about me.  My daughter (that’s you Saver of Bugs) did not cause my mental issues over the move.

A visit to my daughter turned into a forced march in order to allow her to continue with her weekend plans.  See my previous post and comments.  I’ll say it again – the school handled this whole switching of rooms extremely poorly.  There were plenty of cranky students and their parents over their screwed Memorial Day weekend.

My daughter moved from the basement to the third floor, thankfully of the same building.  (One poor girl moved from the fourth floor of one building to the third floor of our building.)  That’s six flights of stairs one way.  Over roughly the past 15 years I have had many health problems.  I am not in great shape physically.  The thought of multiple trips up six flights of stairs worried me, particularly how my back would handle things.

I wrote this up several times and couldn’t come up with anything that didn’t sound like a hundred page whine.  So I’m going to try to ‘list’ things, sort of.

The move was awful.  For awhile I was worried about falling over dead on the stairs.  I finally got over that mental shitload.  I was in the worst shape of my life and I hurt.  I know how to hurt.  As a runner, as a horse trainer, pain has always been something to handle.  I can do that.  So then I had to deal with humiliation.  I had to stop on each landing to rest (my legs just simply wouldn’t hold me), I could only carry small pitiful armloads, and after 2 or 3 trips up I had to sit for 15 – 30 minutes and rest.  I didn’t handle that part so well.

The next day every little piece of me hurt.  Even the muscles in my hands hurt – always nice for a long drive home.  When I stopped at my favorite rest stop, I stepped out of the car on my left leg, which promptly gave out and pitched me over into the door.  I had something to say about that that made the people next to me pull their heads out of their van and give me disapproving looks.  As I drove on, I fumed.  I hated being like this!  Then into my head popped the picture of a man I had seen the day before when I had taken one of Saver of Bugs’ friends to the store.  He had been in a motorized chair and carrying an oxygen tank.  Ouch.  I had just managed to spend a day climbing six flights of stairs over 24 times (I quit counting at 24).  And I lived.  And I was driving myself a few hundred miles home, alone.  At that point I felt really stupid.

Do I hurt?  Ooo, baby.  But I am very, very, very, grateful that I can take care of myself and get around on my own.  And hopefully, the next time I get set to feel sorry for myself, I’ll remember the 24 trips up 6 flights of stairs and the man in the chair and just shut the hell up.


“Guard me against the arrogance of privilege, against the indulgence of feeling that I don’t have enough, and the poverty of spirit that refuses to acknowledge what is daily given me.”  –Gunilla Norris

Life At Our House

As soon as I walked through the door Friday, Spider Bait was all over me.  “We HAVE to go see ‘The Avengers’ this weekend.  Again and again.  He had seen it with his friends while I was gone.  “Mom, you’ll love it.”  And he was also on me to watch ‘Captain America’ so that I was all caught up.  Which was a little weird, ’cause I’m used to seeing David Zabriskie, a U.S. Time Trial Champion, race in his Captain America outfit.  So the face didn’t quite ‘fit’.  But the kid was relentless, so tomorrow we’re doing ‘The Avengers’.


Please ignore the stupid 2004 date on my photos.  I am trying to get the camera to stop burning dates into my pictures, and apparently I haven’t succeeded yet!


Fur Babies and Other Friends

This is the best I’ve come up with so far.  I need a stronger light and to clean the window.  Say ‘Hi’ to one of our nightly visitors:

That’s a flying squirrel hanging on our bird feeder.

Out in the Yard

Our header today is another look at my Serviceberry’s berries.  They’re ripening up and I’ve already eaten a few (many) while watering plants.  They are soooo yummy.  I really need to get it planted where it will get big.  Of course, then I’ll be fighting the birds for the berries.  Sigh.

I promised to show you pictures when my cactus started blooming.  Here you go:


I have pictures.  I do.  But I haven’t been looking up the information on them.  I need to get back to doing this, I know.  The whole point was to learn them and use them.  Try, try, again.

Mug of the Day

Tomorrow, oops, today now, is movie day!


Ugh, My Daughter was Living in a Storage Closet

Originally I was supposed to just be bringing my daughter cooking stuff so she could save some of the research stipend they were paying her this summer.  The cafeteria is not open during the summer and cooking instead of buying out every meal would be a good thing.  Then she got told, “You’re moving to your other room Thursday-Sunday.”  Problem is she is leaving Friday for a LARP that has been on the books for 3 months.  They wouldn’t let her in early nor give her an extension even though she is working two jobs.  Guess who her moving buddy would be, bad back and all?  I was pissed.

So I packed to stay a couple of days.  And I always forget something.  Always.  Even when I make a list.  Guess what I forgot this time?   Aww, come on, guess!

Give up?  I actually forgot to pack underwear.  Yes, family, friends, and faithful lurkers, I forgot my underwear. (head to desk)  This is a new low, even for me.  I couldn’t even borrow a pair from my daughter as she had just put on her last clean pair.  I’ll let you decide whether I’m running around in dirty drawers or going commando hoping to get a load done during moving.

And speaking of moving… here’s what I found when I got here:

Turns out she is storing stuff and plants for people over the summer.  What a mess!  I have been told I have to tell you that nearly all the weaponry and tall boxes you see  will be going to the LARP on Friday.

This is where I got to sleep last night:

It took us all freaking day to get moved.  Saver of Bugs had research work and then tech crew.  Fortunately, they let her out early.  I could only do so much because of my back.  We worked until 12:30 am.  We were hauling from the basement to the 3rd floor.  NO elevators and six flights of stairs.  I quit counting on my 24th trip up the stairs.  I’ll be lucky to walk tomorrow.  And there is still shopping to do in the morning.  Ugh.  So here are the results minus her desk being finished and all her shit back on the walls.  (Oh, and a LARPer with a van did come and get quite a bit of the stuff.)

Thank heavens we are done!  It’s time for shower and bed.  Hopefully, I’ll be in bed by 2 or 2:15 am.  🙂

Woot! DONE!

Random Thoughts

I HATE this time of year.  With a passion.   To top it all off, I was soooo sure that the college financial crap was due the same day as taxes.  Oops.  Nope.  They were still due on the 15th even though it was a Sunday and taxes were due on the 17th.  AND my daughter had popped off to LARP for the weekend (6-ish hrs away) and she hadn’t done her taxes either.   Did I mention how much I hate this time of year?  Did I mention how much I love Skype?  We pulled some bull sessions on Skype, each working on whatever, able to ask each other, “Do you have this?” or “What do I do here?” just as if we were in the same room.  I love Skype.

Once upon a time I was an organized person.  I knew where all the paperwork was and taxes were filed early.  I want that back.  To that end, I dug out some envelopes and file folders and sorted what paperwork I had found and had done.

They are now in my ‘full of out of date stuff’ file cabinet.  But they are where they should be.

“Procrastination is the thief of time.” – Edward Young

And to march myself forward tomorrow:

“To be really great in little things, to be truly noble and heroic in the insipid details of everyday life, is a virtue so rare as to be worthy of canonization.”                                                     – Harriet Beecher Stowe

So here’s to being “great in little things”.

Life At Our House

Last night was one of two spring Concert Band concerts.  We have been listening for weeks to our son say how bad it was and no one was doing well and no one needed to come to this concert, blah, blah, blah.  So we really didn’t tell anyone to come but insisted we were coming, get over it, we’re supporting the band and it’s just us… you get the picture.  Are we allowed to smack our kids over the head with heavy objects?  Because it was one of the best concerts of late (there have been some truly bad ones not too far back), the music choices were great, my MIL would have loved it, and I just want to smack my kid.  So we had our say in the car along the lines that he was being entirely too picky (there were 7th graders and one 6th grader playing with them) and we’re inviting people always from here on in.  He, of course, thinks we’re nuts for liking it.  Sigh (of aggravation).  However, the one ‘fun for everyone’ part was this awesome tie he got for Christmas (I wish I could show you how spiffy he looked, but he doesn’t want to have his face on the blog):

Fur Babies and Other Friends 

The animals were being very uncooperative today about having their pictures taken.  But I did get a lucky shot of Jake stress yawning at me.

Out in the Yard 

Between the weather and the taxes I did not get to play outside this week so far.  But I have bunches of ‘in the yard’ posy pictures.  I even grabbed a couple after dinner tonight.  Here is one of my favorite flowers and the header tonight – Columbine.


Did you know Petrified Wood is considered a crystal?  Petrified Wood is fossilized wood.  This is where the organic material has been replaced by minerals, usually agate, chalcedony, or quartz (all crystal material).  The most common sources  are the USA and  Madagascar.  The astrological association of Petrified Wood is Leo and it is associated with the Base Chakra.

Petrified Wood is another calming crystal.  Good for de-stressing and mental balance, it is also good for the bones and can help with arthritis.  It can help access past lives and help look at periods of Time in fresh ways to help with life lessons.  Just holding it in your hand and looking at it is amazingly soothing.  Hold Petrified Wood or place as needed on body.

(I apologize for the flash spot, but I could NOT find a way to photograph this without shine!)

And my mug for tomorrow will be:

Have you guys figured out yet that I like flowers?  🙂